As long as we are on this earth, there must be this order of submission. Woman was not made with the same emotional stability as man. She tends to be motivated by how she "feels" and is easily swayed by the emotions of the moment. She was taken from man to be a helpmeet. Her strength and stability come from her husband as her head, even as the church receives direction and stability from Christ as its head. The secret of strength in both relationships lies in the submission of each to her proper head.
Only as the wife submits to the husband can there be a true revealing of the nature of God, the ability to love and be loved. The husband's role in the marriage relationship is to rule; the wife's role is to come under or answer to. When brought together in Christ, this relationship reveals the nature of God--which is love. The two in the relationship of husband and wife express a oneness or completeness which is not expressed individually. Adam said, "This is bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh."
As God has made man and woman, there is an emotional completeness that can only be expressed and experienced as the wife submits to the husband. Man was given the ability to love and to rule with stability. But this is not necessarily so today, in either of the sexes. Sin has taken its toll. Today we have women that are more masculine and men that are more feminine. Yet you cannot say that this has changed God's order of authority or the flow of His life.
"...There is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus" (Galatians 3:28). The reason for this statement of equality between men and women is that God's order of submission brings them into the oneness that is in Christ. They receive the grace of God together because of the oneness that both are partakers of in Christ, within the order God has instituted. It is God's order, and His design. God did not create male and female equal in their individuality. Equality is not in man as he stands alone, but in oneness, the oneness that finds its completeness in Christ and in God's design. Colossians 2:10 says, "And ye are complete in Him, which is the head of all principalities and powers." This is the only way that we can know we are in Him--we are complete only in Him. Also in 1 John 2:5, "But whoso keepeth His word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in Him." There must be evidence that we are in Him. 1 John 2:6, "He that saith he abideth in Him ought himself also so to walk, even as He walked."